My Story
Why Wholeness Matters and How I Found Mine
I grew up learning to play it safe.
My father was a military man—war-hardened, emotionally distant, and often quick with correction. One night, after I said something at dinner he didn’t like, he snapped, “Engage your brain before you engage your mouth.”
Message received.
From that moment on, I learned to scan the room, read the temperature, say the right thing, and stay in line. I ditched my instincts and started performing. I got really good at being who I thought I had to be. My fear of criticism and rejection kept me small.
My need to feel safe also made me take on responsibilities far beyond my years to keep them safe, too.
I found my value in being the responsible one—the one who put everyone else’s needs ahead of his own. My sense of worth became wrapped up in being reliable, steady, and self-sacrificing.
I became an experienced coach, teacher, and minister. I led countless groups, spoke on stages, and supported others through deep transformation. I knew how to hold space, ask the right questions, and help people find their truth.
But I was still running from my own.
Breaking Point
When the pandemic hit, everything shifted.
Leading my spiritual community through crisis, grief, and uncertainty broke something open in me. I was over-functioning to survive. And my need to get it all “right” kept me exhausted.
I kept showing up, but inside, I was unraveling.
Eventually, I hit a wall. Burnout. Big time.
I took a sabbatical. Got support. Coaching. Therapy. Honest conversations.
And I started the real work—unraveling the stories I’d been living under for decades.
That I had to be responsible in order to prove my worth. That being whole meant being perfect. That playing small was the price of love.
None of it was true.
What Changed
I stopped pretending.
I leaned into my own reinvention. I went through the Alignment process myself. That’s when everything clicked.
I realized that my fears of criticism and rejection were never the root problem. They were symptoms of a deeper need: to experience wholeness.
For me, Wholeness means accepting and integrating every part of myself—even the ones I was taught to hide. It means letting go of who I thought I had to be in order to finally live as who I really am.
That shift changed everything. It clarified my purpose. It connected every chapter of my life. And it made one thing crystal clear:
I help people feel accepted, included, and like they belong. That’s my Vision. Because when we feel those things, we stop performing for others and start living for ourselves. And that’s where real transformation begins.
How I Show Up Now
Now, my focus is working primarily 1:1 and in small groups—because I know how powerful and personal this work needs to be.
I help people like you come back to themselves. The parts you’ve disowned. The truths you’ve buried. The life you’re finally ready to claim.
Your wholeness isn’t just for you.It’s how you make the impact you were meant for.
The world desperately needs that version of you.
When you stop hiding and start honoring who you really are, everything opens up.
You don’t have to keep running. You don’t have to earn your place. You just have to take a step toward who you’re becoming.
Let’s take that step together.
